Real Talk Life Coaching in Cheshire and Manchester

How do men and women in the 21st Century communicate? There has been a complete change in the perception of the the role each other plays in society no wonder there is confusion. From the onset of a new relationship there is ‘fear’ of ‘how to play the game’! And before anyone denies there is game playing I’ve yet to be proven wrong.

So who takes the lead, who asks who out, is it okay to call, who decides where to go to eat and who pays the bill?  Questions and more questions which leaves both men and women wondering how to get it ‘right’.

The days of the defined role of both men and women has gone and we are left in limbo. We are supposed to be equal but how can that be when we are both so different.  We think and act differently so why can’t we celebrate our differences and work more on finding a way to communicate in a manner that will allow us to be really ‘listened’ to. And if we can achieve that then we can begin to move forward in our relationship. There will be bridges being built, recognition of each others thoughts, needs and aspirations – both as individuals and as a couple.

And as women we must not presume that we are the better at expressing our feelings than men – this isn’t necessarly true. We often allow our feelings build up to a point where there is a ‘torrent’ of words -at which point the man switches off and doesn’t engage in ‘conversation’. 

It is important to consider ’setting the scene’ for good communication, conversation will flow and an understanding of each other will follow.

Perhaps if we followed these basic principles our relationships would grow and flourish instead of continuing to seek out our ’soul mate’ and leaving behind the ‘debris’ of yet another ‘unsuccessful relationship’.